Life dating 101
“I worry that guys I date might act weird about it.”Pushing it under the rug is indeed one way to “act weird about it.” Not acknowledging someone’s identity this can make them feel invisible and like they don’t matter.
Respect where people are coming from, their perspective, and their politics, no matter who they are.
Regardless of how someone identifies, they should not feel as if they have to compromise on their expectations for a relationship.
“I have gotten requests for wild sexual interactions as well as requests to be a ‘unicorn’ — a bi chick who sleeps with or dates couples.It quickly became a frustrating ritual for me, a self-identified queer woman and someone with a graduate-level education in gender and queer studies, to constantly be in a position of educating.While, in 2019, it seemed to me and my direct group of friends and peers that queerness was a pretty widely accepted and understood term, as I started to dig a little deeper, it became obvious that many people are still uncomfortable with or don’t understand what being queer means.Sedgwick, along with other scholars, encouraged people to think about sexuality on a spectrum and abandon the idea that gender identity exists within binaries, such as being male and female.Rather, it is something more fluid and that allows for more nuance in the way that people choose to identify and express themselves.